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Women Time to Step into Your POWER

by Shelley Murphy (follow)
Shelley Murphy Counsellor & Psychotherapist Masters of Counselling & Psychotherapy UofA Member of the ACA College of Supervisors Level 3 Member Australian Counselling Association Email: Counsellor@outlook.com.au Web: AdelaideAnxietyTherapy.com https:/ www.facebook.com/ShelleyMurphyCounselling/ @GrowinEsteem
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The word "power" comes from the root word "potent". Women need to become a potent force in our workplaces, families and communities.

Power comes in many forms

• Leadership by moral example eg: Mahatma Gandhi, Lowitja (Lois) O’Donoghue, Mum Shirl
• Power to inspire eg: Nelson Mandela
• Power of the community eg: people power

Having power means

• Setting your own agenda – not reacting, responding or resisting others
• It is not bullying or bossing
• It is not ‘I win, you lose’

Knowing you have power means being able to negotiate from a position of strength.
You will use tools such as networking, acting collectively, persuading, consulting, and influencing.

You use it in a democratic way which results in empowering others.
You will gain it not by taking away others.
You will use power as a verb not as a noun.
You will believe that power is to be shared.

Unsplash, Tim Marshall


Why is power important?

Without it your needs, hopes and plans will always be secondary to somebody else.

How do we get it?

• Start with yourself. Respect yourself. Have a clear sense of who you are. Change what you don’t like about yourself.
• Claim your place at work, at home, in your business or wherever you are. You need to feel valued.

Rules about power

• Being centered – be clear about what you want and why, who you are and what you value
• Self-confidence – believe that you are worthy of power
• Start at where you feel comfortable
• Don’t be afraid
• Surrender the need for approval – make your own decisions, have independent opinions, express them

The top ten assets of successful women

• A clear sense of purpose
• Confidence
• Integrity
• Community – need to be a team player
• Information
• Balance and common sense – work/family/personal satisfaction and community good
• Self knowledge and self discipline
• Imagination
• Sense of humor
• Humanity – resilience

Tactics for you

• Be prepared – all change is met with resistance, face the resistance and often it will disappear
• Accept yourself- the way we feel about ourselves will be reflected back to us
• Give as well as demand respect. We are all unique and have something to contribute that entitles us to respect

Unsplash, Jessica Podraza


How to build self-respect

• Deserve it- know what you value, and always, always act with integrity
• Learn to give and receive compliments
• Learn to recognize when your work has been well done. Stop trying to improve it
• Self-awareness – let go of beliefs that weaken you, identify your strengths and weaknesses
• Risk change, realize that it is impossible to arrive at a different destination if you continue to travel the same route
• FEAR overcome it, by accepting it, change the name to excitement
• Value yourself
• Learn how to give and receive constructive criticism
• Surround yourself with people who honor and support your journey
• Identify the thinking which is helpful and that which comes from the Posion Parrot
• Present yourself with polish, people will react to how you present yourself, if you want to be identified as confident and in control than act that way
• Surround yourself with positive and empowering people
• Expect to be respected, respect others, respect yourself
• Dream. What is it that you want? Be specific
• Know your values

Power belongs in the hands of those who understand how it can be used to build up not pull down.
To create not break.

When women understand that they have a right to a good life and to be the authors of their experience then the impact of that knowledge followed by action has the power to change the world.

Unsplash, Miguel Bruna


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