Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Masters of Counselling & Psychotherapy UofA
Member of the ACA College of Supervisors
Level 3 Member Australian Counselling Association
The word "power" comes from the root word "potent". Women need to become a potent force in our workplaces, families and communities.
Power comes in many forms
Leadership by moral example eg: Mahatma Gandhi, Lowitja (Lois) ODonoghue, Mum Shirl
Power to inspire eg: Nelson Mandela
Power of the community eg: people power
Having power means
Setting your own agenda not reacting, responding or resisting others
It is not bullying or bossing
It is not I win, you lose
Knowing you have power means being able to negotiate from a position of strength.
You will use tools such as networking, acting collectively, persuading, consulting, and influencing.
You use it in a democratic way which results in empowering others.
You will gain it not by taking away others.
You will use power as a verb not as a noun.
You will believe that power is to be shared.
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Why is power important?
Without it your needs, hopes and plans will always be secondary to somebody else.
How do we get it?
Start with yourself. Respect yourself. Have a clear sense of who you are. Change what you dont like about yourself.
Claim your place at work, at home, in your business or wherever you are. You need to feel valued.
Rules about power
Being centered be clear about what you want and why, who you are and what you value
Self-confidence believe that you are worthy of power
Start at where you feel comfortable
Dont be afraid
Surrender the need for approval make your own decisions, have independent opinions, express them
The top ten assets of successful women
A clear sense of purpose
Community need to be a team player
Balance and common sense work/family/personal satisfaction and community good
Self knowledge and self discipline
Sense of humor
Tactics for you
Be prepared all change is met with resistance, face the resistance and often it will disappear
Accept yourself- the way we feel about ourselves will be reflected back to us
Give as well as demand respect. We are all unique and have something to contribute that entitles us to respect
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How to build self-respect
Deserve it- know what you value, and always, always act with integrity
Learn to give and receive compliments
Learn to recognize when your work has been well done. Stop trying to improve it
Self-awareness let go of beliefs that weaken you, identify your strengths and weaknesses
Risk change, realize that it is impossible to arrive at a different destination if you continue to travel the same route
FEAR overcome it, by accepting it, change the name to excitement
Learn how to give and receive constructive criticism
Surround yourself with people who honor and support your journey
Identify the thinking which is helpful and that which comes from the Posion Parrot
Present yourself with polish, people will react to how you present yourself, if you want to be identified as confident and in control than act that way
Surround yourself with positive and empowering people
Expect to be respected, respect others, respect yourself
Dream. What is it that you want? Be specific
Know your values
Power belongs in the hands of those who understand how it can be used to build up not pull down.
To create not break.
When women understand that they have a right to a good life and to be the authors of their experience then the impact of that knowledge followed by action has the power to change the world.