"Honey, let's go out."
"Ok, sounds good. What do you want to do?"
"Want to go to the bar?"
"We just went to the bar. How about that Thai place in town?"
"I just had Thai with my coworkers yesterday."
"Do you want to see a movie?"
"What's out right now?"
"Well, there's that remake of that 80s movie, and that sequel to that action movie."
"Ehhhh, not feeling a movie right now. Maybe dancing?"
"At the club with the groping guys or the club with the leering guys?"
If that conversation does indeed sound familiar, then you're going to have an easier time accepting what I'm about to tell you. It is a truth that no one wants to hear, but it's necessary.
Dating is boring.
Heavy, right? And for most people, it's true. There are large swaths of the country in which the only thing couples can seemingly do to have fun is go out to one of three local restaurants, go out to one of two local bars, or go to the movies. Doing those things with a loved one (or a liked one) makes them more tolerable, but there are only so many times you can go to T.J. McTacos for blackened chicken quesadillas on a Saturday night before wondering if that's all there is in life.
Well, your friendly neighborhood is here to tell you that there are other options. Even if it may not seem like there is in your town of 15,000, there are other options. Alex Wise - a relationship coach and editor of Loveawake dating site sent over these ideas via his publicist...
I typically don’t reprint third-party articles, and I am certainly not endorsing this guy since I don’t know him, but his ideas seemed pretty cool. Some of these are going to sound a little weird, but they're supposed to. If you wanted to read advice telling you to "go on a picnic with your man," you'd have bought a magazine with Martha Stewart on the cover. So think about them, and see if they sound cooler than what you had planned with your boyfriend this weekend.
Hire a limo for an hour and have it drive you around.
Most people only get chauffeured around in a limousine a few times in their life - proms, weddings, and funerals - and those times aren't all that fun. If you took one for your prom, it was full to bursting with gangly teenagers. For weddings, the bride took up half the space with a poofy dress. For funerals, well, everyone was sad. But taking a limo just for sake of taking one? Awesome. Get one for an hour. Have it drive you and your boyfriend to Chili's. Go to the pharmacy in one. Have a black-suited chauffeur open the doors for you. It's great, and everyone will assume you're an American Idol winner. Best date ever.
Join an adult sports league.
Dodgeball, kickball, softball - it doesn't matter. If you're single, they're amazing places to meet people. If you're dating, it's a great excuse to get outside and run around. Plus, team sports are good for the soul. You're united in purpose with other people, including your boyfriend, in trying to accomplish a goal. You feel like you're part of something larger than yourself. Even if you weren't good at sports as a kid, trust me, you'll have fun as an adult.
Go to one of those pancake breakfasts and hang out with awesome old people.
Do you ever see those Rotary Club Pancake Breakfast signs when you're walking through the middle of your town? Or signs advertising that the local firefighters will be making waffles? Well, consider going to them. I know it doesn't seem like a fun, but it is. You and your boyfriend will be the youngest people there. And if there's one thing I've learned about old people, it's that they treat young people like visiting dignitaries. Everyone will be asking you questions, telling stories about what the town looked like in the 50s, offering to pass the maple syrup, and wishing you well in all your life's endeavors. It's a surprisingly fun time.
Jump out of a plane.
Whether you live in a big city or farm country, there is invariably a skydiving company operating within an hour of you. If you're never been skydiving, it's worth trying once. Ideally, with a loved one. You will never feel more bonded to another human being than when you're both plummeting towards the Earth at a startling rate of speed. I guarantee it will be a more memorable date than Applebee's.
Get in your car and pick a direction.
The world looks a lot different 45 minutes away. Even if it has the same stores, same restaurants and same weather, another town a little drive away will feel different. The drive there is fun (particularly if you make up a little playlist) and a website like Yelp will tell you what to do once you get there. Don't overplan. Just put gas in the car, look up some stuff to do the morning of, and get on the road. You don't have to drive far to change the surroundings.
Dates, like life, are what you make of them. If you're fine doing the same things over and over again, that's great. But if you're not, remember that there are options. You've got a partner in your boyfriend or husband, so partner up and find some adventures.